Healing Narcissism, Trauma & Men’s Emotional Health

In this deeply revealing episode, Kendall Patterson is joined by transformational coach Kyle Miller to unpack the emotional complexity of healing from narcissistic abuse, understanding trauma, and navigating the messy middle between personal growth and masculine emotional repression.

Together, they discuss how coaching can sometimes serve more powerfully than therapy, why Human Design is revolutionizing self-understanding, and how men desperately need safer spaces to unpack shame, grief, and unmet needs.

They weave in real-life stories, attachment theory, gaslighting recovery, and the impact of maternal wounds, ultimately offering listeners a map for healing that blends the spiritual with the strategic.

If you’ve ever wondered how trauma shapes relationships—or how men and women can communicate with more compassion—this is the episode for you.

🧠 Top Takeaways:

• Human Design is a game-changer for trauma recovery and aligned action.

• Coaching can feel like magic when rooted in nervous system awareness.

• Kyle shares his journey from truck driver to full-time coach—and how he bet on himself by selling his house to heal others.

• Narcissism is more than a buzzword—it’s often misunderstood.

• Gaslighting and emotional manipulation can make us doubt our own memories.

• Early childhood wounds—especially maternal relationships—shape how we attach, cope, and love.

• Men need mentorship, safety, and language for emotional truth.

• Good coaching honors cycles, discomfort, and embodied growth.

💬 Powerful Sound Bites:

“Human Design makes so much sense.”
“Good coaching looks like magic.”
“Men need these conversations.”
“Healing begins where shame ends.”
“We weren’t meant to do this alone.”
“Your nervous system doesn’t lie.”

🧩 Chapters / Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro: Coaching and Human Design
02:59 – Human Design as a tool for awakening
06:22 – Kyle’s radical career pivot into coaching
09:19 – Narcissism: Label vs. lived experience
13:48 – Trauma in relationships + gaslighting unpacked
18:43 – Attachment theory and emotional safety
23:25 – Coaching vs. therapy for modern healing
28:54 – Reimagining masculine emotional support
31:04 – Nervous system vs. talk therapy
35:15 – Redefining mentorship in today’s world
38:19 – Mother wounds and the imprint they leave
41:56 – How childhood chaos informs adult patterns
48:27 – Men’s emotional health + sacred accountability
55:56 – What’s next: Emotional clarity and community